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BDF’s weekend sex rule infuriates soldiers



ARMY ORDER:BDF soldiers have had to contend with the rule on partners for 20 year

Botswana Defence Force (BDF) authorities are alleged to be busy cracking the whip at one of the army barracks in Gaborone. All women dating Skwata boys have forcibly been thrown out of the barracks recently, The Midweek Sun has learnt.

According to information from BDF Village Camp, the management has tightened the leash and no lover is allowed to enter the barracks during weekdays. Lovers are only allowed to visit during weekends and must return latest Sunday evening. Failure to abide by the rules results in the army men and ladies being heavily punished. Several army men and women were impassioned when discussing their situation with The Midweek Sun. They were however quick to seek anonymity as it is against their code of conduct to speak to the media on issues of army protocol.

“They only allow married couples in there, as for the rest of us who are still in the dating phase, we are forced to see our partners only during weekends.” said one of the aggrieved soldiers.
The soldiers said the law has long been there, but added that it is often relaxed to a point they completely forget that it exists.They said it is common knowledge that their partners are requested to register their names at the camp entrance and they often stay in camp for as long as they want. Some of them had even permanently accommodated their lovers at the barracks and they were forced to start hunting for accommodation just recently.

“It is only when the ‘clean -up campaign’ is in full swing that we are starved of sex, during these trying times we are forced to either masturbate at night or have sex in broad daylight during weekdays because they can’t come here in the evenings to even spend a night.” When reached, the BDF Director of Protocol and Public Relations Major Fana Maswabi said, “I have been with the BDF for more than 20 years and the rule has always been clear that no boyfriend or girlfriend allowed at the barracks.”Maswabi explained that the rule has to be respected because during inspection times, such are bound to happen. However, he could not confirm if indeed outsiders have recently been removed from the barracks.

Maswabi excused himself from providing further details on the matter saying he is on leave and requested that the BDF Public Affairs Office be asked instead. Nevertheless, his colleague Tebo Dikole demanded that a questionnaire or fax be sent to their office. It is normally the ladies who are affected by this campaign as the army is male dominated. “This is how our boyfriends end up cheating on us because we are not allowed to satisfy their sexual needs. They end up sexing their army colleagues and there is nothing we can do about it,” noted one of the affected and concerned ladies. The lady went on to say that the public is often quick to label soldiers as heart breakers, however most are unaware that the army boys are actually sex-starved. “They go on trips that last close to three months or even more and when they are home, they are subjected to a two-minute sex game.”

Meanwhile, an independent investigation carried out by this publication proved that the law does not sit well with many soldiers. It appears that the BDF is currently enforcing the law only at Village Camp for now. One soldier at the SSKB barracks said they are aware of the rule and they are often told to remove their partners from the camp. He admitted that many of his colleagues are often labelled sex freaks because they are not allowed to cohabit saying it was even torturous when dating someone from far areas. Another soldier based in Selibe-Phikwe argued that the law is now outdated and again it infringes on their rights. “We cannot be told when to sex our partners. That is just wrong, none of those guys has ever abided by that rule, imagine a 40 or even 30-year old being told to have sex only during the weekend,” he quipped.

The clearly unhappy soldier even went on to say that the law is outdated and should be lifted because they view it as nothing but abuse of soldiers. “It was formulated during the times of former president Ian Khama.” Some soldiers have told this publication that the removing of their partners from the barracks was a phase that will soon pass. They argued that not all of them can afford marriage or will get married anytime soon and it is unfair that they are denied to have sex freely.

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Dikarabo Ramadubu



Kgosi Bokamoso Radipitse of Bakhurutshe ba Tonota got married to Mohumagadi Koontse nee Batsweleng of the same village in a colourful ceremony befitting royalty on Saturday in Tonota. The special occasion was held at the spacious main Tonota Kgotla, which boasts two permanent all-weather shelters fitted with public address system, chairs and free WI-Fi.

As with his installation two years ago, the wedding once again united the tribe as all members participated. Most impressive was the active involvement of the elegantly dressed Bazezuru women who formed part of the ushering team.

The royal couple arrived at the main Tonota Kgotla riding on a white chariot pulled by a horse. This was after parading in the main streets of the village for the villagers who could not make it to the main Kgotla. The chariot was escorted by a convoy of Honda Fit vehicles mostly owned by members of the Tonota Taxi Association and well wishers led by area MP and Minister of Tertiary Education, Thapelo Olopeng. There was also a convoy of V-8 engine Land- Rovers.

Mohumagadi Koontse is the daughter of Mme Kerotse Batsweleng in Mmandunyane. Batsweleng was born in Kanye at Ruele ward. The couple first met in 2011 during the population census where the Kgosi was absolutely smitten by the gorgeous damsel. The couple is blessed with two sons, Theriso and Seabo. Mohumagadi Koontse is still employed by government as a teacher at Makolojwane in Serowe.

The guest list included Magosi of different tribes amongst them Bamangwato regent, Sediegeng Kgamane, Kgosi Kebinatshwene Mosielele of Bahurutshe ba Manyana, Minister of Finance and Economic Development, Kenneth Matambo, Ministers Olopeng and Kgotla Autlweetse. Although Kgosi Radipitse is a fully fledged Kgosi, he has however not been draped with a leopard skin in line with the custom.

The simple reason is that his father, Kgosi Ramosinyi who retired, is still alive. Tonota chieftainship succession is clearly defined. No one has ever challenged the lineage.

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Yvonne Mooka



On March 2, Katso Kaone Tlhobogang decided to go to a Red Tie gala dinner at Boatle, only to be ridiculed by social media users for her outfit a few days later.The 22 year-old Ramotswa woman had opted for a vintage look, with a loose peach skirt and green blouse that set tongues wagging.

When The Midweek Sun visited her, she explained the incident. “I hate tight clothes. I love colour blocking and I love pleated skirts. Before the event, I went to a store in Gaborone and honestly, when I saw the skirt, I felt it was long and big. The shop assistant however wanted me to buy it. I left and tried other stores but there was nothing for me. So I went back for the peach skirt and I remembered I had a green blouse to match it, so I bought it,” she says.

At home, her aunt Caroline Molefi-Jamieson asked her how she was going to dance wearing such a long skirt but she was having none of it. The aunt tells The Midweek Sun: “She actually danced for me in the skirt and she was feeling so free and happy.” Tlhobogang says that when she arrived at the event, people gave her some funny stares, something she says indicated to her immediately that her outfit was out of place. She however says she cared less and went ahead and danced. The event had a red-carpet and an official photographer and Tlhobogang did not hesitate to have her pictures taken as well.

“The photographer called me and I enjoyed the moment as I posed like crazy! Like Tyra Banks and them!” says the model, who is also a Certificate in Banking and Finance holder. She is currently assisting her aunt with running her pre-school. According to her aunt, last Thursday they had taken their pupils to Lion Park for recreational activities when she found 64 missed calls on her phone. Tlhobogang had left her phone at home. She says that when they got back to school around 4pm, Tlhobogang’s cousin called her saying people were ridiculing her on Facebook over her outfit. “I kept quiet and did not tell her anything. When the rest of the staff was gone, I then told her that her cousin was saying she was trending on Facebook.

But she took it lightly till we got home when she got hold of her phone and checked Facebook,” she says. She reveals that on that day, her niece could not eat and was weak. Her face was swollen, she says. “I even moved from my bedroom to hers because I was afraid she was suicidal. I had to force her to eat by taking her to Nandos the following night around 10,” she says.

Tlhobogang admits she was angry and sad. She states that out of 156 pictures shared from the event, hers was mocked because she was not wearing a skimpy outfit that exposes breasts and butts like other women. “They probably thought I didn’t qualify for the event. That I was a misfit,” she says. Next to her, Phenyo Molefi, her cousin, shared that he too had been taken aback by the Facebook posts. “Actually, on Thursday, I saw the pictures before she and her mom could, and I kept quiet but I was fuming.

If I had the means, I would have gone and dealt with everyone who insulted her. I spent the whole day sleeping because I couldn’t handle it,” he says. As fate would have it, the people that attacked and ridiculed Tlhobogang now have to eat humble pie as she is receiving love from all over the world – not just locally. People are calling her to give her vouchers for clothes. Others are simply sending her messages asking for her shoe size and clothing size.

She has received an offer to go to Turkey by a local minister’s wife for a shopping spree. Others have offered to take her to Johannesburg, Okavango Deltas, among others. “I have close to 80 clothing offers from people calling from locally, outside and countries such as China and Morocco. My tears have turned into joy. It’s so unbelievable how it has worked out to my favour,” she says.

Tomorrow (Thursday), a local designer Theo Bree Khumo is hosting a re-makeover session for her at Grand Palm. “I’ll be wearing the same skirt but she says they are going to change it here and there. Other ladies will come wearing a similar skirt but in flair designs,” she says.

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