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Love hard to find for gay men

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It’s worse if you are HIV positive

Finding love is hard generally, but according to Pontsho Sekisang (21), it is even harder to find it within the gay community; add being HIV positive and it’s like climbing Mount Everest. And so sadly, he says, you end up settling for whatever you can get. “A lot of time is organised around sex for either straight or gay people. But I find that what we have done as gay men is organise our identity around sex.

And that is self-destructive. And to make things worse, promiscuity has become the norm,” he says. Gay men, he adds, are so “hardwired” towards finding casual sexual encounters. “It is a lonely existence.” Sekisang, who is longing to be in a loving and committed relationship with hopefully a white or Indian man and to raise children, shares that unfortunately a lot of time, he gets to deal with “closeted older men who only want to meet up late at night.” “My last sort of relationship ended two weeks ago when my 49 year old partner found out about my status.

It is these outdated attitudes from people about HIV that is a challenge.” He says he talks about his HIV status with good humour now, knowing that the effective treatment he is on means he can’t pass on the virus. “There is still so much stigma out there that needs confronting, especially in the gay community,” he says. “I have been threatened, been told to get lost and die when I have told people I am HIV positive, because they think I’m spreading HIV. Some people also say they don’t date or sleep with people ‘like me,’ to which my response is ‘that you know of.’‘The truth is they may have slept with people who have HIV and don’t know it or even guys who know their status but haven’t disclosed for fear of rejection, because there are a lot of gay men who remain undiagnosed,” Sekisang explains. Another major challenge he has noted is how “extreme vanity” has been “sewn into gay culture.” “We like material things, the Somizi type of lifestyles.

And I’m including myself here. I like trendy things and to trend. But this in itself, he acknowledges, makes otherwise intelligent young men like himself settle for being treated as “sex objects on a demeaning meat rack.”

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Church distances itself from Pastor who livestreamed his suicide

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Head Pastor at Metsimotlhabe Holiness Union Church France Koosimile has distanced his church from Phenyo Godfrey who committed suicide live on social media a week ago. Speaking to this publication this week, Koosimile said Godfrey was never a Pastor at Holiness church as assumed by many.

Godfrey, who goes by the name Bishop P Godfrey on social media, allegedly shot a video of himself committing suicide on Sunday evening. According to a few friends and those close to Godfrey, the deceased was from Molepolole and has been identified as a pastor at Holiness Union Church in Metsimotlhabe.

On the evening  of Sunday last week, he went live on Facebook and proceeded to put a rope around his neck. He was seen in the short video hanging by the neck until he took his last breath. TO READ THE FULL STORY, BUY THIS WEEK’S (11 August 2021)  PRINT EDITION OF THE MIDWEEK SUN AT A STORE NEAR YOU.

 

 

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Women challenged to step-up food production

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National Development Bank CEO, Lorato Morapedi has challenged women to take up more agribusiness ventures to cut down on the country’s food import bill.
With an annual P7 billion food import bill hanging over the country, Morapedi said women can significantly trim it down. “We need to get out of our comfort zones, let’s open our eyes and seize the opportunities,” said Morapedi, adding that women need to work in groups.
She emphasized that women should leverage on collective expertise found in clusters to grow the country’s food production sector.
“Grab the opportunities that exist with the food value chain,” she said, citing that women have been hard-hit by COVID-19 in their endeavors to put food on the table.
She further implored women not to shy away from finance development institutions (FDIs) to finance their projects. Morapedi bemoaned that a handful people are willing to go into food production despite the high import food bill that the country faces.
Very few people are doing food production; people are lazy to go into food production,” said Morapedi. She also highlighted that the country’s major supplier, South Africa is also not coping as COVID-19 challenges unravel.
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