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No more worries for cheating spouses

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Cheating spouses together with side chicks and guys had a field day of jubilation recently when Judge Lot Moroka ruled in court that marriage wrecking laws in Botswana were archaic and outdated.

While the ruling was circumstantial, it has set a precedent to challenging the laws governing marriage in Botswana. Judge Lot Moroka last week made the landmark ruling in a case in which Phindile Mhotsha was sued for marriage wrecking by Precious Kgaje, who argued that the accused had an adulterous affair with her husband.

The plaintiff had wanted the court to evaluate the common law validity of the third party based on adultery pertaining to civil marriage. In his ruling, Moroka noted in part: “It is the quality of the citizen; his or her integrity and respect for the marital institution and not the fear of sanction that sustains tranquillity in the marriage,” adding that “it is not in all instances where one spouse commits adultery that divorce follows.” Moroka further stated that the remedy of damages against the third person is ineffectual as it leaves a critical co-prepetrator, being the married spouse, off the hook. Moroka made relevant and eye-opening points, one of them being that marriage does not end attractiveness and married people are not exempt from being attracted to other people, but argued that “the maturation of this attraction to a romantic relationship does not depend on the absence or presence of threat of sanctions presented by the action injuriarum of adultery. “In lay-man terms this means that marriage is a covenant between two individuals and a third party who is not a contracting party cannot be blamed for breaching this contract. Respect yourself enough to do the right thing and protect your marriage. The third party is invited by someone into the marriage, no one is forced to have an affair; it is a choice,” Moroka said.

Among other key issues, he also noted that the idealistic perception of marriage is that married couples should work hard to ensure that they are emotionally and physically unavailable to other people and it is not the obligation of the courts to drive fidelity in the marriage. He cited that in other situations, cases of obtaining by false pretence and extortion when the other party was demanded to pay damages were becoming rife. “Cases of marriage wrecking when one party sued but did not divorce – enjoyed spoils of compensation,” he said. In an interview with The Midweek Sun, popular life coach Kgomotso Jongman concurred that marriage was for two people and the third party was invited by someone within the marriage. “You cannot expect a third party to protect your marriage for you, that is your prerogative as a married person.” He noted that the reason adultery and infidelity were rife is because some people marry for the wrong reasons. “They then go out and look for things to complement what they lack in their marriages because they did not marry for sincere reasons such as pure love, for example,” he said. Marriage officer and pastor in the Evalengical Lutheran Church Pastor Thabiso Segatlhe reiterated that it was the responsibility of married individuals to protect their marriages.

He said that marriage is a gift that should be respected, adding that self-awareness was a critical component in exchanging vows. He pointed out that the emotional, spiritual and sexual aspects should be in synergy for a marriage to work, saying that it was the responsibility of the married parties to create an environment conducive to marital bliss. Segatlhe noted that challenges and pain were inevitable in marriage but with God, anything could be overcome. “You don’t suddenly become blind when you get married so you will notice third parties and some would pursue you but it is up to you to uphold the dignity of your marriage through self-discipline by pushing away the third party,” he said. He also stated that fidelity was possible in marriage provided both parties loved and respected each other, and were committed to their union. Segatlhe encouraged people to go for pre-marital counselling before settling down. “In pre-marital counselling, we trace both parties’ history, personality traits and characters, not to expose any negativity but for them to better understand each other better and make the right decisions,” he said. The outspoken pastor also argued that the sanctity and relevance of marriage would never be eroded regardless of the changing values in society. “Marriage is like love, it is Godly and would never go away no matter what happens. It is cemented on the values that Jesus encouraged such as honesty, true love and confession for one’s mistakes.”

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VACANCY: President of the UDC

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Botswana Movement for Democracy (BMD) President, Advocate Sidney Pilane says Umbrella for Democratic Change (UDC) does not have a President.

He revealed this week that UDC leader, Advocate Duma Boko was given the leadership of the coalition on a temporary arrangement. Advocate Pilane who was addressing the media this week, following the expulsion of his party from the UDC stated that in the buildup to 2014 general elections it was agreed that Advocate Boko should be presidential candidate for UDC, an arrangement that ended at the time when the UDC lost the 2014 general elections.

“It was decided that Botswana National Front (BNF) should be given the presidency so that Advocate Boko could be our presidential candidate. The late Gomolemo Motswaledi of BMD was to be his running mate. We made this arrangement in preparation to taking over state power.

So, all that has passed, we contested and lost so it is all in the past,” said the BMD leader. He stated that constitutionally, the UDC has no president because the president has to be elected during the UDC elective congress. Advocate Pilane pointed out that UDC according to the Constitution should hold its congress every three (3) years.

He stated that even all the members of UDC National Executive Committee have to be elected at the congress and as it stands, “there is no president or Vice Presidents because they were not voted into those positions.”

Advocate Pilane said instead of building the UDC brand their colleagues at Botswana Congress Party (BCP) and Botswana National Front have resorted to petty issues. He told the media that the leadership of the two parties have taught their members to insult BMD leadership and its members on social media and any other forum.

He had no kind words for the BCP, calling the party a divisive party that thrives on insults and divisive tendencies. He said the BCP leadership had encouraged its foot soldiers to use social media to insult him and members of the BMD.

According to Advocate Pilane, these are some of the things that have made the two parties remain in opposition for far too long without even coming close to toppling the ruling party. He described them as dishonest people who will plunge the country into chaos and that is why Batswana do not want to give them power.

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VIDEO: A Gaborone hotel Prophet caught in the act

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In a matter that closely resembles that of a South African Cabinet Minister, Melusi Gigaba’s masturbating video clip, a visiting Zimbabwean Prophet, Ronald El Melchizedek of Altar of Grace this week denied that he has been sending nudes to church sisters and demanding same from them.

In fact, the ‘man of God’ has earned himself the name, ‘Botswana’s Omotoso’ by girls that allege he has sexually exploited them. Pastor Timothy Omotoso is a Nigerian clergyman accused of sexually exploiting over 30 young girls from his church in South Africa.

“He is an Omotoso and even though they hide it at his church, some of us have received messages from him asking for our nudes. Actually, he has asked for my nudes several times,” says one church sister.

The Midweek Sun has gotten hold of a 34 seconds video clip of the youthful prophet playing with his manhood. Looking like he is in a hotel room, the man stands fully naked in a muted video that, depicts him speaking and teasing the recipient. In a standing position, he starts off by caressing his manhood, giving it a close up and ends up lying on the bed, facing up.

At least three young women say they received the video from the prophet and that he usually asks for nudes from them. One of them actually says he has been pestering her, demanding to have sex with her. “He likes to send me messages of how horny he is for me. But again, he likes asking for nudes from women.

Even married women at his church have fallen victims of his sexual harassment. I left the church because he disgusted me by doing such things yet calling himself a man of God,” she says.

The woman however says that Melchizedek, a Zimbabwean who holds services at Gaborone Hotel when he is in the country, is a man of accurate prophecies. “He moves mightily in the prophetic but he likes harassing church sisters. It is known in his church. He is married but controlled by the spirit of lust,” she says.

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Melchidezek told The Midweek Sun that he was aware of the video of him doing the rounds through WhatsApp, but was quick to label the whole thing a scam.“Yes we are aware. Those are scammers from Benin who hacked into my wife’s Facebook account and phone and stole our videos and pictures. So they wanted to blackmail us and we refused, that is why they are doing that.

It is just an effort to harm the work of God but God is in control,” he told The Midweek Sun. He would not be drawn into responding to, or even discussing the allegations levelled against him by church sisters, but instead gave this reporter a mobile number of a person he said was his wife.

The said woman confirmed that the video was posted by scammers. “That was done by scammers. We have reported them to Benin police,” she said. She however would not give the name of the police station nor go into further details.

This incident follows on last week’s revelations reported by this publication, where several girls spoke anonymously about pastors, prophets and ‘men of God’who were using them sexually in church. Many were uncomfortable to reveal their names, forcing this paper to also conceal the identies of the accused churches and pastors involved in the dirty acts in the name of God.

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