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No more worries for cheating spouses

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Cheating spouses together with side chicks and guys had a field day of jubilation recently when Judge Lot Moroka ruled in court that marriage wrecking laws in Botswana were archaic and outdated.

While the ruling was circumstantial, it has set a precedent to challenging the laws governing marriage in Botswana. Judge Lot Moroka last week made the landmark ruling in a case in which Phindile Mhotsha was sued for marriage wrecking by Precious Kgaje, who argued that the accused had an adulterous affair with her husband.

The plaintiff had wanted the court to evaluate the common law validity of the third party based on adultery pertaining to civil marriage. In his ruling, Moroka noted in part: “It is the quality of the citizen; his or her integrity and respect for the marital institution and not the fear of sanction that sustains tranquillity in the marriage,” adding that “it is not in all instances where one spouse commits adultery that divorce follows.” Moroka further stated that the remedy of damages against the third person is ineffectual as it leaves a critical co-prepetrator, being the married spouse, off the hook. Moroka made relevant and eye-opening points, one of them being that marriage does not end attractiveness and married people are not exempt from being attracted to other people, but argued that “the maturation of this attraction to a romantic relationship does not depend on the absence or presence of threat of sanctions presented by the action injuriarum of adultery. “In lay-man terms this means that marriage is a covenant between two individuals and a third party who is not a contracting party cannot be blamed for breaching this contract. Respect yourself enough to do the right thing and protect your marriage. The third party is invited by someone into the marriage, no one is forced to have an affair; it is a choice,” Moroka said.

Among other key issues, he also noted that the idealistic perception of marriage is that married couples should work hard to ensure that they are emotionally and physically unavailable to other people and it is not the obligation of the courts to drive fidelity in the marriage. He cited that in other situations, cases of obtaining by false pretence and extortion when the other party was demanded to pay damages were becoming rife. “Cases of marriage wrecking when one party sued but did not divorce – enjoyed spoils of compensation,” he said. In an interview with The Midweek Sun, popular life coach Kgomotso Jongman concurred that marriage was for two people and the third party was invited by someone within the marriage. “You cannot expect a third party to protect your marriage for you, that is your prerogative as a married person.” He noted that the reason adultery and infidelity were rife is because some people marry for the wrong reasons. “They then go out and look for things to complement what they lack in their marriages because they did not marry for sincere reasons such as pure love, for example,” he said. Marriage officer and pastor in the Evalengical Lutheran Church Pastor Thabiso Segatlhe reiterated that it was the responsibility of married individuals to protect their marriages.

He said that marriage is a gift that should be respected, adding that self-awareness was a critical component in exchanging vows. He pointed out that the emotional, spiritual and sexual aspects should be in synergy for a marriage to work, saying that it was the responsibility of the married parties to create an environment conducive to marital bliss. Segatlhe noted that challenges and pain were inevitable in marriage but with God, anything could be overcome. “You don’t suddenly become blind when you get married so you will notice third parties and some would pursue you but it is up to you to uphold the dignity of your marriage through self-discipline by pushing away the third party,” he said. He also stated that fidelity was possible in marriage provided both parties loved and respected each other, and were committed to their union. Segatlhe encouraged people to go for pre-marital counselling before settling down. “In pre-marital counselling, we trace both parties’ history, personality traits and characters, not to expose any negativity but for them to better understand each other better and make the right decisions,” he said. The outspoken pastor also argued that the sanctity and relevance of marriage would never be eroded regardless of the changing values in society. “Marriage is like love, it is Godly and would never go away no matter what happens. It is cemented on the values that Jesus encouraged such as honesty, true love and confession for one’s mistakes.”

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BMC secures beef market in Seychelles

Dikarabo Ramadubu

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Botswana Meat Commission (BMC) will soon start to sell its beef to the Island of Seychelles. Not only will they sell frozen raw meat, but will also send corned beef for trial in the Island.

All this is thanks to last week’s visit by President Mokgweetsi Masisi who included in his delegation executive management of the BMC, led by Chief Executive Officer, Dr Akolang Tombale.
The agreement signed between BMC and two leading Seychelles companies, will see BMC exporting at least 48 tonnes of raw beef to the island possibly from October. The names of the two companies that BMC signed an agreement with are Seychelles Trading Company which is a quasi-government organisation, and Rosebelle Company which is privately owned.

Although both have agreed to trade with each other, BMC cannot start immediately, as they have to wait for the green light from Seychelles companies who still have to apply for import permits in accordance with the law of their republic.

Speaking to The Midweek Sun, Tombale expressed gratitude that they managed to get good business in Seychelles through the assistance of President Masisi. “We are ready to export any time from now. As you know Seychelles is an island surrounded by mountains and cannot produce much if not anything. “They therefore depend much on imports even from as far as Brazil and Europe. Their economy is driven by tourism and they do not differ much with the European market in terms of the demand for beef as most tourists come from Europe and United States.”

Dr. Tombale said they agreed with the two companies that since “we are not sure about the logistics we will start by selling 24tonnes to each company per month, meaning we will be supplying the Island with a total of 48 tonnes per month. The idea is to start small and grow bigger as the people get used to our beef.” BMC has also negotiated to sell small stock meat to Seychelles and successfully negotiated for local chicken farmers to start selling their range chicken to Seychelles as well.

According to Tombale, he negotiated the deal after being approached by local chicken farmers amongst them Kgosi Mosadi Seboko of Balete, who requested that “we should try to find a market for chicken farmers as we go around the world searching for the beef market.” Tombale revealed that for a start both range chickens and small stock will not be supplied in tonnes or large quantities as they will be sold on a trial basis.

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G-west community reunion-walk a resounding success

Keletso Thobega

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Multitudes turned up for the Mosengwaketsi community walk and braai session this past Saturday in Gaborone West. The walk was held in the morning and was preceded by football games and a braai session that went on until late in the evening.

According to the event director Tshenolo Palai, the aim of the community day event was to revive community spirit and address crime and social ills. “The Mosengwaketsi community reunion will be held not only to create a platform to build unity but also address the social ill of passion killings,” he said.

Palai said that they had also invited health stakeholders for a wellness segment because they had realised that there are many health related conditions that affect the quality of people’s lives hence they had joined forces with religious organisations, the business community, neighbourhood outreach policing and other stakeholders in the area to encourage a culture of unity and create dialogue between all the parties.

He noted that they had wanted to create a relaxed environment conducive for different people to engage and strengthen their networks. He said they were also concerned with the high rate of crimes of passion in Botswana and also wanted to create a platform for both men and women to open up on issues that affect them because most people tend to be more relaxed in a social setting.

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